The thought of a sugar baby may sound like sex labor to many. In most cases Yes, it is. In my case I got lucky I was able to get away with it in two dates without having to do anything sexual…
At the time I was 26 years old and was going through a rough time since my roommate then decided to just pack and go. I was left with a very high rent and all kinds of over due bills. I was also going to College and paying tuition, not to mention I was a single mom of a two year old. Even though I worked two jobs already, I kept looking for ways to make quick money. I sold some of my things, cleaned houses and tried bake sales. Some where really not worth the time and effort for the little amount of money or failure all together. I was running out of ideas and out of time, then I remembered my gay friend once say to me “If I looked the way you do, I’d be a sugar baby making bank” and so I thought I’ve actually stood so low because at that point I thought I did not have an option but to become a sugar baby.
First I did some research online, watched some videos, looked up sugar daddy websites until I found one and just went ahead and created a profile. At first I thought hey! probably if I looked for someone old he’d probably have a lot of money; money he wouldn't even know what to do with. I also thought I could take him if he tried any funny business since he might be weak enough. The thought just creep me out. I couldn't do that to myself. Then I thought I should just go for someone I could actually like and get a long with and so I found myself two 30 year old Korean sugar daddies. Many sugar babies might suggest having one sugar daddy at a time and not make things complex but I had no time to waste.
We first talked a little bit, got to know each other over messages via the website and expressed to each other what kind of arrangement we were seeking. After we knew we were “OK” with each others arrangements we moved on to texting and talking a little more. Once I was sure they were into me I would express that I was only on that website because I was financially in trouble which they both offer to help. It probably took me about a week before we met and on our first meeting it was arranged they will pay me to go on a date. For each sugar daddy I made sure we met in a public place during day time for my safety.
Sugar Daddy (A) mentioned he liked legs…ok?. So I wore a button up mini dress with some platforms to make my legs look long and rubbed some oil on those legs to make them look shiny and sexy. We met at a coffee shop and had pleasant conversations for about an hour after that we decided to have a bite in which we both got into our separate cars and hit the restaurant. We had some lunch and I started to get a little impatient because we where running out of things to say so I came up with an excuse so I could leave. He told me not to forget the money “of course I wasn't going to forget, “it was the only thing on my mind the whole time” He the told me to follow him to the bank and gave me $400. I was a little upset but I acted like a lady and said thanks and cant wait to see you again and left. I was upset because the arrangement was for $600 I guess he was just trying to make sure I would see him again. But hey at least he said I had nice legs. On our second date he took me to this amazing Halloween Party and we had a blast, I felt kinda bad because he introduced me to his friends a nice couple which I liked. Once the party was over he gave me the rest of the $200 and after that I ditch.
Sugar Daddy (B) was looking for an arrangement that he could have the girl but not the drama. His job required too many hours and when he was not doing that; he wanted to spend it going to museums, concerts and fancy dinners with a lady that wouldn't nag to him after a days long of work. Just the company of a woman if you will. Our first date again I wore that little button up brown dress with the platform shoes, a high sleek ponytail and natural make up. I looked simple but sexy, casual but elegant all in combination. We had a magnificent lunch at a locally own ranch style restaurant there I ordered pasta carbonara and I will never forget the half raw egg they threw on top of my pasta whatever fancy word there is for raw egg. We talked about a lot of different subjects and he felt a connection towards me because according to him, everything I was saying he was thinking. While we spoke I received a text message and when I went to look at my phone the screen literally detached. I looked up at him embarrassed but his words where very comforting “ we’ll have to get you a new one of those”. Once we where finished at the restaurant he had to go back to work but first he walked me to my car. When we arrived at my parking spot the mess of car. Tints halfway detaching from the windows, bumper falling off to which he replied “we’ll have to fix that too”. For this first date we had not arranged for him to pay me any money, the whole time we never mentioned money in fact; yet, he pulled $200 out his wallet and gave it to me. Some days later I texted him the “I’m broke” message and he got upset because I did not mentioned anything to him in person so he agreed to see me at a parking lot soon. We met at the mall parking lot this time at night and he handed me an envelope I did not open it just said thanks and that I had to get going. When I got home there in the envelope was a brand new iPhone and $800 cash. After that night he invited me to go with him to a museum he had gotten tickets to a private event there would be. It sounded very nice surely something I would have enjoyed but I no longer wanted to play this game that required nights out away from my child. I apologized that I could not assist and after that I never spoke to him again.
Yes! I still feel bad for taking advantage of them but I am very thankful to them for getting me out of a bad situation. I GOT LUCKY! not everyone can get away with what i did without being asked for something in return. Nobody gives away nothing for free. So it was bound to happen sooner than later they might ask for something in return. If I did not had a kid I would actually consider finding a permanent sugar daddy. A sugar daddy like one of the two gentlemen mentioned above because traveling and pampering myself is still on my to-do-list.